There is a simple truth in the theory of violence: it does not begin with the gun. It begins with the word.
When, in the early days of what was pompously christened the “flamingo revolution,” I was forced to publicly retaliate against violent abusers, many people attacked me. They weren’t attacking the abusers, they were attacking
me. The reason was comical: “You should have been more ethical.”
So, ethics were required of the one who responded, not the one who attacked.
From day one I said that this was not a revolution of ideas. It was a factory of violence. Like any other revolution that is built on hatred, it immediately produced its first weapon: insults. We had neither debt, nor revenge, nor deceit with them. We were not necessarily against them. We simply rejected the logic that violence could be a political or civic method.
Time has proven that first reading I gave to this revolution.
Today, no one can say they don't see the escalation of violence. From insults on social media, to threats over the phone, to public lynching, to eggs, to stones, to the destruction of police cars and MPs' vehicles. Or did you forget the coffin and the "bullet in the forehead" statements?! Don't tell us that blocking roads isn't called escalated violence!
Violence, then, only changed the means. The essence remained the same.
The problem is that we have a somewhat primitive definition of violence. Albanians, in the majority, call violence only that which leaves blood. If there is no weapon, there is no victim. If there is no broken nose, split lip or black eye, there is no rapist.
This is our collective self-deception.
Public insult is violence. Systematic humiliation is violence. Organized insult is violence. The attack on human dignity is the first form of violence. Precisely because it aims to strip the other of respect, of reputation, of the right to be free and equal in the public space.
Our society does not protect dignity, unfortunately. The state even makes it worse. That is why swearing is not considered violence. Dignity is seen as a luxury, not as a right.
But there is also hypocrisy in this matter.
When we were insulted, not the deputies or the officials, we were preached ethics. Those who insulted were called activists. When they started throwing eggs, they were called protesters. When they destroyed cars, they called it a civil revolt. When they started throwing stones at the police, it was called proportionality. When they blocked the roads and raped citizens, it was called democracy.
How is it possible that there is always an excuse for the abuser?!
Now I ask: does Iris Luarasi have to be physically assaulted for society to be convinced that public insults were violence? Should we wait for the next victim to understand that violence does not arise at the moment a fist is raised, but much earlier, when hate speech is normalized?
No.
There is no reason why the ordinary citizen should have less dignity than a member of parliament, a minister or a public figure. Whoever insults a citizen is exercising just as much violence as when they insult a politician. Dignity is not measured by mandate.
And yes, when someone insults you publicly, they have first abandoned ethics. They cannot then claim moral immunity for themselves. Those who choose insults as a weapon cannot complain when they receive a response. Respect is a mutual relationship, not the privilege of the abuser.
Whoever curses me is cursed!
That is why I have not accepted and continue to reject ethical lectures from violent militants. The path is not paved for any fool who thinks he can terrorize anyone with insults, lynchings and threats and then present himself as a victim when he gets a response.
If the state, the police and the judiciary understand this, it will be good for peaceful coexistence in society. But in any case, I repeat: whoever curses me, is cursed!
The Flamingo Revolution didn't fail because it lacked ideas. It failed because it chose violence as its language. And history shows that every revolution that begins with hatred ends up eating itself.
Violence is not just the bullet. Violence is also the word that prepares the bullet.