A few miles from Google's headquarters in Silicon Valley, there is a school where smartphones are banned and where education is based on developing skills considered fundamentally human.
Waldorf School of the Peninsula, attended by children from three to 12 years old, costs about $47,000 a year and is the choice of many technology company executives for their children.
The paradox is obvious: the people who build the products and platforms that are filling children's lives with screens try to keep their own children as far away from them as possible.
The debate over limiting smartphones and social media for minors has only intensified in recent years, but many Silicon Valley executives had long imposed strict rules on their families.
Peter Thiel, one of Facebook's early investors, stated in 2024 that his children only spent about an hour and a half in front of screens per week.
Even Evan Spiegel, the CEO of Snap, has placed strict limits on the use of phones and social media by his four children. For the youngest, screen time is almost zero.
This trend is not new. Bill Gates imposed strict restrictions on computers and television in his family as early as 2007. Steve Jobs, the co-founder of Apple and creator of the company that revolutionized the personal device market, used to say that his children were not allowed to use iPads.
Even in the face of the explosion of artificial intelligence, many tech leaders remain cautious. Their companies portray AI as inevitable and as a tool that will transform education, work, and everyday life.
However, when it comes to their children, the approach is much more reserved. Sam Altman, the head of OpenAI, has revealed that he regularly uses ChatGPT for advice on caring for his son.
But he has also stated that he does not want his child to be exposed to tablets, social networks or algorithm-based systems early on. According to him, it is better for direct contact with artificial intelligence to come too late than too early.
Altman and Spiegel have also spoken about the importance of boredom during childhood. Both believe that time without constant stimulation encourages children to read, play, invent, and develop their imagination.
Altman has said that, for now, he prefers his son to just “play with dirt.” One exception seems to be Mark Zuckerberg.
The head of Meta has shown a more optimistic attitude towards the use of AI by children and has stated that his eight-year-old daughter already uses these tools for programming and creating videos.
But behind this model of "technology-free childhood" lies an issue of privilege. Wealthy families can afford private schools, nannies, tutors, and numerous activities that keep children away from screens.
Lower-income families often have fewer alternatives, and electronic devices can become an indispensable tool for entertainment and childcare.
Thus, the Silicon Valley paradox is also a reflection of modern inequality. Those who produce the most powerful technology in the world seem to be among the first to try to protect their children from it.