
When Will Smith slapped awards presenter Chris Rock on the Dolby Theatre stage on Sunday night, the comic and the public were all left stunned. Will Smith just me up, Rock shouted.
"Don't pronounce my wife's name out of your filthy mouth," Smith said loudly, after the joke Rock made about Jada Pinkett-Smith's shaved head - despite her recently publicly appearing to have alopecia.
Later, when the tearful Smith gave his best actor speech, he continued to defend his actions, saying he felt compelled to protect his family.
Such a dramatic defense was felt by many people as disproportionate to what Rock said. However, Smith's personal story suggests why the actor acted the way he did.
In his autobiography, published in November 2021, the actor widely describes his father William's horrific violence against his mother, Caroline, where he and his three siblings had been witnesses for years.
"When I was nine, I saw my father hitting my mother on the side of the head so hard that she fell," he writes. "I saw blood flowing from his mouth. That moment in that bedroom, maybe more than any other moment in my life, has defined who I am."
Smith wrote that it was not only the violence that traumatized him, but the very powerlessness at the time to re-energize and protect his mother.
"Within everything I've done since then – awards and ratings, attention centers and attention, characters and laughter – there was a delicate string of apologies to my mother for my inaction that day. For failing to stand up to my father. I was a coward," he said.
Smith's parents separated when he was a teenager. The actor maintained a close relationship with his father, but says his hatred resurfaced when his father had cancer and was using a wheelchair. When Smith was taking care of him, he said he was also thought to kill him.